If you're a naturally organized, together person, or a teensy bit needy and clingy, you'll usually try to arrange a get together earlier on, so you can feel that relief of, "Okay, I've got plans. If you usually contact them about it on Wednesday evening, you'll never give them a chance to take the lead. Let's say that if left to their own devices your friends would start trying to organize weekend plans on Friday morning. What if you shoot them down or think they're a needy pest? They breathe a little sigh of relief every time you text them asking if they want to grab coffee and catch up - "Oh phew, they haven't gotten sick of me yet." Your friends would try to organize some plans, but you always get there first They've thought about inviting you out plenty of times, but never have the guts to go through with it. Your friend may lack confidence, worry you don't really like them, and half-suspect you'll come to your senses and drop them at any moment. You're not the only one who may feel insecure about the relationship. Your friend is shy and insecure about asking you to hang out If they're younger they may not know any better, and never learned the unwritten guideline that a good friend won't leave the work of organizing get togethers entirely to other people. If they've always had a decent social circle, and friends who did all the organizing, they may never have needed to initiate anything themselves. Others go with the flow and wait to see what comes their way. Some people are keen little social planners. Your friends have a personality or social style where they wait for other people to invite them out first
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